回季

回季

又见秋末叶满地
忆念春夏泪不禁
远看雪花飘满天
悟其四季心随意

简单熊 19.10.2015.

Back to School

Back to School

A friend was sharing how difficult it is to practice his religious beliefs in everyday life and ask me for my perspective on it. He said he felt that the knowkedge are easier to apply on the religious grounds and not in the outside world. I told him that it is similar to part time work/study, going to school and applying the knowledge at work.

Think of all religious institutions as schools that we go to to learn knowledge and internalize them as forms of beliefs, habits etc. And life outside the religious institutions as 'work life' where we apply those knowledge to 'work problems', issues e.g. interpersonal, personal etc that we faced in everyday life. In short, practical application of the religious knowledge and beliefs that we have learned i.e. practice of the religious beliefs.

So if everyday life is work life then who is the boss, who are the customers? It is a one-man company, you are your own boss and your external stakeholders are the whole of humanity, the world which we live in, including the animals and plants. You decide what kind of boss you want to be, be it lax, strict etc. And the internal stakeholders are yourself, your family, your friends and also the whole of humanity.

If that is the case, then what about salary and bonuses? The salary is the mental and emotional peace that we feel everyday and bonuses are the positive things which happened in our lives e.g. a hug from a good friend.

What about office politics? It is your own mind. Your colleagues are the many conflicting thoughts in your mind between positive and negative e.g. wish for peace, happiness and greed, egoism. As the boss, you need to solve the politics to ensure the smooth operations of the 'organization' which is basically you.

In the working environment, we learn the practical application of the religious knowledge. So what if we are not equipped with the necessary knowledge, we go back to schools to 'upgrade' ourselves e.g. getting another professional certification, Masters degree, PhD etc.

If we have already attained the highest qualification there is, what is next? Continued research if academics becomes your work. There is no end to learning. We all as humanity, shared the same end, which is death.

So when do we retire? To say the truth, most of us are workaholics and we usually work till the last day.

Please excuse me for now. I need to get back to work.

Graduation

Grateful

I can't think of another better word to describe how I am feeling right now. From the initial elation that I felt 5 years ago on starting my childhood dream of studying Psychology till now, the overwhelming gratitude that I felt on my graduation day.

Thanks to my family, colleagues and friends for the support over the 5 years. And also the many ex-classmates and now, friends for making my university life fun and interesting especially seniors, peers and juniors of Psyconnect. I hope I didn't let you all down as the President over the last few years. Thank you for the trust and support. And of course, my army of studying comrades who suffered with me over the last five years during examination periods, from morning till night.

Last but not least, my lecturers who had given me their knowledge and support in my capacity as a student and also as President of Psyconnect.

It has been a long 5 years and tomorrow is the start of a new chapter, a whole new beginning.

Thank you everyone who had made this possible.

May all be well and happy

With Loving-Kindness
Simple Bear

寂寞

"有时，寂寞是一种失落; 一种当自己把世界遗忘的失落。"
简单熊 07.10.2015.

幸福就在那扇门后

幸福就在那扇门后

"什么是幸福?" 一位友人问。

我答:"幸福就在你那扇门后。快过去开门吧。你就会知道什么是幸福。"

他愣住了许久。始终没鼓起勇气去打开那扇门，见一见幸福了。

他说:"我一个人会害怕，我想还是等我家人和女友来了，我才开门吧。"

我说:"到那时，幸福就走了。它已经等了很久了。"

他问:"幸福等了很久了吗? 它怎么没按门铃?"

我答:"它按了好多次门铃了。你不是在睡觉，就是沉迷于电玩，当然没听到。"

友人透露出纳闷的表情，对我说，"你既然听到幸福的门铃声，怎么没叫我?"

我答:"我叫了。但你沉睡时叫不醒; 沉迷时听不进。"

友人顿时露出难堪的表情，很不好意思的说:"你当时就帮我开门，请它近来就好了嘛。"

我答:"房子是你的。门是你的。你既然是主人，理当是你去开门，怎么怪起我来了。"

友人静了静说:"我想还是算了。我不去开门了，还是不敢一个人，不如你陪我去吧。"

我答:"不。幸福只见你一个人。"

友人说:"那就算了吧。别再为幸福烦恼了。"

我答:"话是你说的。以后别再问我幸福是什么。想知道就自己去开门。幸福就在那扇门后。"

友人: 0_O!

简单熊 03.10.2015.

恋爱。了。

恋爱。了。

别误会，我没有在谈恋爱。只是对一段关于男女之间的爱情观的对话起了一些想法， 所以想写下来。

恋爱是人生的历练。有些人在爱情的门前徘徊，提不起勇气。有些在爱情里犹豫不觉， 拿不定主意。有些在爱情后悔恨不已，失去再爱的勇气。但一切只是经历。

每个人对爱情拥有一定的幻想。有些人在爱情的门前想着门后的美好。有些在爱里想着未来下一秒钟的无限可能。有些在爱情后想着曾经的美与不美。但一切只是幻想。

爱情是人生的一部分，也是人生的缩影。快乐与悲伤，甜蜜与痛苦，微笑与眼泪。其实，在每段感情里，我们需了解的并不只是相恋的爱人，我们更需要从中了解自 己。知道自己在爱里，想与不想的，爱与不爱的。爱情让人成长，让人有了对自己更深刻的了解。别浪费爱情，就算一段爱情会结束了，把学到的当成下一段爱情的 肥田。

爱情就好像夕阳， 无限美丽但只是近黄昏。

还是要勇敢去爱。

简单熊 29.09.2015.

你为何见死不救?

你为何见死不救?

曾有人怪我见了一位朋友痛苦而不去帮她。别人觉得我无情也好， 狠心也好。帮人啊， 不是单靠一股热忱就够了。 帮人是需要看天时地利人和的。适时的帮忙， 一句话就能改变他人的人生。单靠一股热忱，不能成事; 有时人没有帮到， 反而伤了他人， 伤了自己。

对于这位友人，该说的我都说了。 在我能力范围之内，能为她做的我都做了。有时候，我们都像儿时的自己。请问曾有多少次，当父母对我们说这里危险，劝我们不要去。不听话的我们还是去了，伤了， 痛了之后才发现原来父母的话都是真的，为我们好的。忠言，始终还是逆耳。

真正的改变自己不是别人能够做到的，只有自己才能改变自己。别人只是辅助; 若自己不想，别人逼也逼不得。有些人走近悬崖， 就有了倒退自救的想法但有些人跌入谷底后，才有想自救的欲望。身为朋友的，若尽力了，就只能待在身边。他人一旦有了自救的欲望，就伸手把他给扶上来。

每个人都能改变，从痛苦中重生，得以快乐但不是每个人都能改变每个人。
无情也好， 绝情也罢。

一切都让它去吧。

简单熊 21.09.2015.