You are hot and you are cold
Friend: "I am disappointed in you."
Simple Bear: "Disappointed?"
Friend: "You seem so cold to me?"
Simple Bear: "Am I supposed to be warm?"
Friend: "I mean, since you are talking about love and kindness, aren't you supposed to be warm?"
Simple Bear: "I am not perfect, my dear. And the image of a warm and fuzzy bear is your expectations of me."
Friend: "Sorry. I didn't mean to."
Simple Bear: "There is no need to be sorry. I am grateful for you telling me. It is an inspiration."
Friend: "Inspiration for ?"
Simple Bear: "I, too falls into the subconscious trappings of having
expectations and expecting the expectations to be true and disappointed
when it is not. We expects others to be our expectations and in the
process, fails to understand them from their perspectives."
Friend: "You mean we should not have expectations?"
Simple Bear: "We can have wholesome expectations, of ourselves and
strives to be so. Some may say we won't be disappointed if we don't have
expectations but the truth is, can we not have any expectations?"
Friend: "Maybe we can?"
Simple Bear: "Are we are at ease with no expectations? Are we just
comfortable with just how things are in this moment of time? Most of the
time, for some of us, we are not at ease. We have the expectation of
not having expectations and that expectation engenders negativity."
Friend: "So, should we or should we not have expectations?"
Simple Bear: "In my limited experience,
there are those expectations of others for oneself, and those of others
and self for others; seek to reduce those of others for oneself. I think
we can have expectations for others but we moderate it with
understanding that no one is perfect. No matter how good your intention
is, if we don't take into consideration the conditions of others, then
it is just 'egoistic' expectations of others."
Friend: "I should work on myself."
Simple Bear: "I should work hard too. I am not perfect."
Monday, January 16, 2017
Saturday, January 14, 2017
Perfection, a journey
Perfection, a journey
"I am not perfect. I have my weaknesses. If I am perfect now, I would be standing at my destination in this moment of time. It is because of imperfections that I undertook this journey of self discovery, introspection and change so that I may, at the end of the road, reach my destination of perfection, freedom from what is not freedom."
Simple Bear 14.01.2017.
"I am not perfect. I have my weaknesses. If I am perfect now, I would be standing at my destination in this moment of time. It is because of imperfections that I undertook this journey of self discovery, introspection and change so that I may, at the end of the road, reach my destination of perfection, freedom from what is not freedom."
Simple Bear 14.01.2017.
Monday, January 9, 2017
Sunday, January 8, 2017
Happiness and Unhappiness
Happiness and Unhappiness
"Sometimes our very pursuit of happiness is the cause of our unhappiness."
Simple Bear 08.01.2017.
"Sometimes our very pursuit of happiness is the cause of our unhappiness."
Simple Bear 08.01.2017.
快乐与不快乐
"有时，我们对于快乐的追求是我们不快乐的源头。"
简单熊 08.01.2017.
"有时，我们对于快乐的追求是我们不快乐的源头。"
简单熊 08.01.2017.
Thursday, January 5, 2017
Sunday, January 1, 2017
Pink Tulip
Pink Tulip
Spent my afternoon with volunteers spreading cheers of the new year with our special friends in the hospital and nursing home.
I saw the name of the ward in the nursing home, Tulip and it reminds me of my work.
What is the flower language of Tulip?
Love. Perfect love.
And pink Tulip symbolizes happiness; happiness from being loved and love.
Heard an inspirational story of care giving. A father who comes to visit the daughter every single day, bringing her out for some sunshine.
Perhaps, the significant reason to most of us finding it inspirational is due to its rarity in our society.
Most of the people in the long term stay wards in the mental health hospital and nursing homes rarely have people visiting them regularly. And some, have no one.
For them, perhaps, their closest family are the nurses who take care of them; and their friends, volunteers who comes to visit especially during festive periods.
I am inspired by the commitment of volunteers who visit them regularly. Over the years, I have seen and work with volunteers who inspired me to volunteer time and time again with their love for others.
I am super inspired by the nurses who take care of them with love and commitment. Perhaps to some, it is their job to take care of them, but the job requires tons of love. And I have seen in my daily work, the love my nursing colleagues put in their work, to provide not only the nursing care that our special friends require but also the care that their hearts needed.
Thank you nurses for working hard this holiday season to take care of those who needed the care.
Thank you volunteers for working hard this holiday season too to spread the cheers to our special friends.
Happy New Year again everyone.
May everyone love and be loved.
With Love
Simple Bear 01.01.2017.
Spent my afternoon with volunteers spreading cheers of the new year with our special friends in the hospital and nursing home.
I saw the name of the ward in the nursing home, Tulip and it reminds me of my work.
What is the flower language of Tulip?
Love. Perfect love.
And pink Tulip symbolizes happiness; happiness from being loved and love.
Heard an inspirational story of care giving. A father who comes to visit the daughter every single day, bringing her out for some sunshine.
Perhaps, the significant reason to most of us finding it inspirational is due to its rarity in our society.
Most of the people in the long term stay wards in the mental health hospital and nursing homes rarely have people visiting them regularly. And some, have no one.
For them, perhaps, their closest family are the nurses who take care of them; and their friends, volunteers who comes to visit especially during festive periods.
I am inspired by the commitment of volunteers who visit them regularly. Over the years, I have seen and work with volunteers who inspired me to volunteer time and time again with their love for others.
I am super inspired by the nurses who take care of them with love and commitment. Perhaps to some, it is their job to take care of them, but the job requires tons of love. And I have seen in my daily work, the love my nursing colleagues put in their work, to provide not only the nursing care that our special friends require but also the care that their hearts needed.
Thank you nurses for working hard this holiday season to take care of those who needed the care.
Thank you volunteers for working hard this holiday season too to spread the cheers to our special friends.
Happy New Year again everyone.
May everyone love and be loved.
With Love
Simple Bear 01.01.2017.
Saturday, December 31, 2016
Reflection 2016
Reflection 2016
It is the last day of the year 2016. And it is time to perhaps to do a reflection of the past 365 days.
2016 had been a crazy year for me, from surviving a car accident, months of being away from work and to a certain degree, leaving my past life behind and back to the work force, working with people in senectitude.
If there is one word to summarize my feelings and thoughts for this year, it would be gratitude.
I am grateful for:
1. Being alive
2. Opportunities to learn more about the health care sector in Singapore, especially in the mental health, dementia etc.
3. My family and friends especially during the period which I was staying at home and dealing with my internal struggle with fear and mortality.
Last but not least I like to express my gratitude to the most important person of all.
Me.
Great job Eric! You have survived and had grown over the past one year. You have grown to accept and confront your subconscious fears especially in the nights. You have grown to embrace your vulnerabilities more and emerge from the acknowledgement and confrontation, a stronger individual.
Some of my habitual tendencies had given rise to difficult times in the past but I am grateful that I am able to see them more clearly than before in 2016. It will be some time before I can reach my goal but at least I think I am slowly inching towards that destination.
2017 will be another journey of self discovery and spiritual progress. Tomorrow will be a new start to a wonderful new year.
May all have a great new year ahead.
May all be well and happy.
With Loving-Kindness
Simple Bear 31.12.2017.
It is the last day of the year 2016. And it is time to perhaps to do a reflection of the past 365 days.
2016 had been a crazy year for me, from surviving a car accident, months of being away from work and to a certain degree, leaving my past life behind and back to the work force, working with people in senectitude.
If there is one word to summarize my feelings and thoughts for this year, it would be gratitude.
I am grateful for:
1. Being alive
2. Opportunities to learn more about the health care sector in Singapore, especially in the mental health, dementia etc.
3. My family and friends especially during the period which I was staying at home and dealing with my internal struggle with fear and mortality.
Last but not least I like to express my gratitude to the most important person of all.
Me.
Great job Eric! You have survived and had grown over the past one year. You have grown to accept and confront your subconscious fears especially in the nights. You have grown to embrace your vulnerabilities more and emerge from the acknowledgement and confrontation, a stronger individual.
Some of my habitual tendencies had given rise to difficult times in the past but I am grateful that I am able to see them more clearly than before in 2016. It will be some time before I can reach my goal but at least I think I am slowly inching towards that destination.
2017 will be another journey of self discovery and spiritual progress. Tomorrow will be a new start to a wonderful new year.
May all have a great new year ahead.
May all be well and happy.
With Loving-Kindness
Simple Bear 31.12.2017.
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