What can I gift
The night was quiet. The soft breeze running
through my almost 'hairless' head. After an entire day of work, I
looked up to the night sky and saw a bright moon shining bright.
Calmness descended upon me. I was enjoying the brief moments in the moonlight, contemplating on my life.
This question arose within, "What can I gift? Even when I am poor?"
The answer arose gently within, love.
"Love is a rare, marvellous gift. We can engender it in abundance within; and it nourishes us when we gift."
Simple Bear 10.02.2017.
Of course, love is a subject which definition had been debated since it
had came into existence in people's minds. Love, in this context,
refers to kindness and compassion.
Love, may just be a kind word
on a frustrating day. A helping hand on a difficult day. A smile on a
rainy day and sometimes, a hug on a dreadful day.
We can 'afford' it as a gift for others even when we are poor financially.
Love and its expressions are rare and marvellous. It requires the
person who gifts, to go beyond one's ego, self-interests, one's pain and
sufferings etc. And it nourishes one within. The presence of love
within means an momentary absence of pain and sufferings even if it is
temporary.
Love is a gift for others as well as a gift for ourselves.
Kindness arose. Compassion arose. Gratitude arose.
Some may ask what if others doesn't want the gift from us? Love is a
lovely gift for others but it is an even more lovely gift for oneself.
It takes the arising of momentary awareness and transcendence of one's
pain and sufferings to see the gift as a gift and to accept it so;
embracing the love as it is.
How rare and marvellous it is to be able to experience love as it is.
It is indeed wonderful.
I looked up to the night sky. The moon is still there in the sky, shining bright.
Have a lovely night everyone.
May all be well and happy
Simple Bear 10.02.2017.
Friday, February 10, 2017
Thursday, January 19, 2017
A want to love or a need to love, that is the question
A want to love or a need to love, that is the question
As I approach my mid 30s, single and unattached and since Chinese New Year is just round the corner, a lot of people had showed their concerns for me by asking me on my relationship status; and some had offered to introduce nice potential partners to me.
I am grateful for the concern. Being the eccentric bear that I am, it engenders a question in my mind, why love?
Do we love someone because we want to love someone? Or do we love someone because we need to be loved by someone?
For some of us, there is no clear answer to that question. We can't differentiate between wanting to love and needing to love; love, perhaps to some, is a mixture of both need and want. Just like sometimes, I can't differentiate whether I am a bear or a human.
:D
Does us wanting to love someone, a result of us needing to be loved by someone? And that induces pain and frustrations; reciprocity in love is rarely as expected.
Going beyond just the normative definition of relationship, we look at friendship and kinship; the question remains the same. Do we love our family and friends because we need to be loved or do we just love them because we want to love?
We expects reciprocity and we suffers sometimes. Is it wrong to expect? It is not wrong but we almost certainly will suffer sometimes.
Want or need to love, that perhaps is the question with no definite answer for most of us.
And, love changes. From a want to a need; from a need to a want, sometimes, over time.
I can't even define love; but that is a question for another day.
May everyone have a lovely day ahead.
With love
Simple Bear 19.01.2017.
As I approach my mid 30s, single and unattached and since Chinese New Year is just round the corner, a lot of people had showed their concerns for me by asking me on my relationship status; and some had offered to introduce nice potential partners to me.
I am grateful for the concern. Being the eccentric bear that I am, it engenders a question in my mind, why love?
Do we love someone because we want to love someone? Or do we love someone because we need to be loved by someone?
For some of us, there is no clear answer to that question. We can't differentiate between wanting to love and needing to love; love, perhaps to some, is a mixture of both need and want. Just like sometimes, I can't differentiate whether I am a bear or a human.
:DDoes us wanting to love someone, a result of us needing to be loved by someone? And that induces pain and frustrations; reciprocity in love is rarely as expected.
Going beyond just the normative definition of relationship, we look at friendship and kinship; the question remains the same. Do we love our family and friends because we need to be loved or do we just love them because we want to love?
We expects reciprocity and we suffers sometimes. Is it wrong to expect? It is not wrong but we almost certainly will suffer sometimes.
Want or need to love, that perhaps is the question with no definite answer for most of us.
And, love changes. From a want to a need; from a need to a want, sometimes, over time.
I can't even define love; but that is a question for another day.
May everyone have a lovely day ahead.
With love
Simple Bear 19.01.2017.
Monday, January 16, 2017
You are hot and you are cold
You are hot and you are cold
Friend: "I am disappointed in you."
Simple Bear: "Disappointed?"
Friend: "You seem so cold to me?"
Simple Bear: "Am I supposed to be warm?"
Friend: "I mean, since you are talking about love and kindness, aren't you supposed to be warm?"
Simple Bear: "I am not perfect, my dear. And the image of a warm and fuzzy bear is your expectations of me."
Friend: "Sorry. I didn't mean to."
Simple Bear: "There is no need to be sorry. I am grateful for you telling me. It is an inspiration."
Friend: "Inspiration for ?"
Simple Bear: "I, too falls into the subconscious trappings of having expectations and expecting the expectations to be true and disappointed when it is not. We expects others to be our expectations and in the process, fails to understand them from their perspectives."
Friend: "You mean we should not have expectations?"
Simple Bear: "We can have wholesome expectations, of ourselves and strives to be so. Some may say we won't be disappointed if we don't have expectations but the truth is, can we not have any expectations?"
Friend: "Maybe we can?"
Simple Bear: "Are we are at ease with no expectations? Are we just comfortable with just how things are in this moment of time? Most of the time, for some of us, we are not at ease. We have the expectation of not having expectations and that expectation engenders negativity."
Friend: "So, should we or should we not have expectations?"
Simple Bear: "In my limited experience, there are those expectations of others for oneself, and those of others and self for others; seek to reduce those of others for oneself. I think we can have expectations for others but we moderate it with understanding that no one is perfect. No matter how good your intention is, if we don't take into consideration the conditions of others, then it is just 'egoistic' expectations of others."
Friend: "I should work on myself."
Simple Bear: "I should work hard too. I am not perfect."
Friend: "I am disappointed in you."
Simple Bear: "Disappointed?"
Friend: "You seem so cold to me?"
Simple Bear: "Am I supposed to be warm?"
Friend: "I mean, since you are talking about love and kindness, aren't you supposed to be warm?"
Simple Bear: "I am not perfect, my dear. And the image of a warm and fuzzy bear is your expectations of me."
Friend: "Sorry. I didn't mean to."
Simple Bear: "There is no need to be sorry. I am grateful for you telling me. It is an inspiration."
Friend: "Inspiration for ?"
Simple Bear: "I, too falls into the subconscious trappings of having expectations and expecting the expectations to be true and disappointed when it is not. We expects others to be our expectations and in the process, fails to understand them from their perspectives."
Friend: "You mean we should not have expectations?"
Simple Bear: "We can have wholesome expectations, of ourselves and strives to be so. Some may say we won't be disappointed if we don't have expectations but the truth is, can we not have any expectations?"
Friend: "Maybe we can?"
Simple Bear: "Are we are at ease with no expectations? Are we just comfortable with just how things are in this moment of time? Most of the time, for some of us, we are not at ease. We have the expectation of not having expectations and that expectation engenders negativity."
Friend: "So, should we or should we not have expectations?"
Simple Bear: "In my limited experience, there are those expectations of others for oneself, and those of others and self for others; seek to reduce those of others for oneself. I think we can have expectations for others but we moderate it with understanding that no one is perfect. No matter how good your intention is, if we don't take into consideration the conditions of others, then it is just 'egoistic' expectations of others."
Friend: "I should work on myself."
Simple Bear: "I should work hard too. I am not perfect."
Saturday, January 14, 2017
Perfection, a journey
Perfection, a journey
"I am not perfect. I have my weaknesses. If I am perfect now, I would be standing at my destination in this moment of time. It is because of imperfections that I undertook this journey of self discovery, introspection and change so that I may, at the end of the road, reach my destination of perfection, freedom from what is not freedom."
Simple Bear 14.01.2017.
"I am not perfect. I have my weaknesses. If I am perfect now, I would be standing at my destination in this moment of time. It is because of imperfections that I undertook this journey of self discovery, introspection and change so that I may, at the end of the road, reach my destination of perfection, freedom from what is not freedom."
Simple Bear 14.01.2017.
Monday, January 9, 2017
Sunday, January 8, 2017
Happiness and Unhappiness
Happiness and Unhappiness
"Sometimes our very pursuit of happiness is the cause of our unhappiness."
Simple Bear 08.01.2017.
"Sometimes our very pursuit of happiness is the cause of our unhappiness."
Simple Bear 08.01.2017.
快乐与不快乐
"有时，我们对于快乐的追求是我们不快乐的源头。"
简单熊 08.01.2017.
"有时，我们对于快乐的追求是我们不快乐的源头。"
简单熊 08.01.2017.
Thursday, January 5, 2017
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