一念红尘一念净
见相其心苦自寻
不见今阳念昨夕
不识无知心如狱
简单熊 11.04.2016.
Monday, April 11, 2016
Monday, April 4, 2016
Sunday, March 20, 2016
Perhaps, we are here to love
Perhaps, we are here to love
Spent the morning visiting a few elderly. Had a great chat with them on a beautiful Sunday morning.
They taught me a precious lesson on love today.
The first was an elderly couple, the uncle was in his 90s and the auntie was in her late 80s. The uncle has visual and mobility difficulties, and when the uncle was chatting with us, the auntie who has auditory difficulties, was there smiling.
Both of them were really positive when they talked about how because of uncle's mobility difficulties, they are unable to go far, and they were smiling when they talked about being each others' support, and how they are satisfied with their lives in the company of their loved ones.
The second was an elder in his 90s. The elder had mobility difficulties but was jovial and kind. He told me his life story, and the part which struck me was when he spoke about his wife, his eyes sparkled with love. He told me how his wife insisted on marrying him during the 1950s despite him telling her that he was engaged through a marriage proposal made by his parents in Taiwan. He choose to marry his wife and decided to call off his proposed marriage in Taiwan despite the possibility of incurring the displeasure of his parents.
He laughed when he mentioned that his wife loved him a lot.
I was touched.
Sometimes, life is really simple. Perhaps, the objective of life is to love; the only difference lies in the person of our affection.
It may be ourselves, our families, loved ones, or the world.
I am grateful for the opportunity to witness and listen to the elders share on their love. Sometimes, it is unspoken, seen through the actions which speaks the language of love. May they continue to love and be loved.
Maybe, just maybe we are all here to love.
May all be well and happy.
With loving-kindness
Simple Bear 20.03.2016.
Spent the morning visiting a few elderly. Had a great chat with them on a beautiful Sunday morning.
They taught me a precious lesson on love today.
The first was an elderly couple, the uncle was in his 90s and the auntie was in her late 80s. The uncle has visual and mobility difficulties, and when the uncle was chatting with us, the auntie who has auditory difficulties, was there smiling.
Both of them were really positive when they talked about how because of uncle's mobility difficulties, they are unable to go far, and they were smiling when they talked about being each others' support, and how they are satisfied with their lives in the company of their loved ones.
The second was an elder in his 90s. The elder had mobility difficulties but was jovial and kind. He told me his life story, and the part which struck me was when he spoke about his wife, his eyes sparkled with love. He told me how his wife insisted on marrying him during the 1950s despite him telling her that he was engaged through a marriage proposal made by his parents in Taiwan. He choose to marry his wife and decided to call off his proposed marriage in Taiwan despite the possibility of incurring the displeasure of his parents.
He laughed when he mentioned that his wife loved him a lot.
I was touched.
Sometimes, life is really simple. Perhaps, the objective of life is to love; the only difference lies in the person of our affection.
It may be ourselves, our families, loved ones, or the world.
I am grateful for the opportunity to witness and listen to the elders share on their love. Sometimes, it is unspoken, seen through the actions which speaks the language of love. May they continue to love and be loved.
Maybe, just maybe we are all here to love.
May all be well and happy.
With loving-kindness
Simple Bear 20.03.2016.
Friday, March 18, 2016
一碗粥，一滴眼泪
一碗粥，一滴眼泪
其实我真的不想吃这一碗鱼圓粥。它提醒着我这是近三十几天以来，我第三次入院。今早，头晕，差点昏过去的我决定放弃与同事们参加今天部门欢聚活动，独自一人来到了医院。
独自躺在观察病房的时候，我听见了其他病人痛苦的声音，有些哭述着身体的痛处，有些哭述着心灵的痛苦。听着，听着，一滴眼泪不禁流了下来。
其实我真的不想吃这一碗鱼圓粥。它提醒着我这是近三十几天以来，我第三次入院。今早，头晕，差点昏过去的我决定放弃与同事们参加今天部门欢聚活动，独自一人来到了医院。
独自躺在观察病房的时候，我听见了其他病人痛苦的声音，有些哭述着身体的痛处，有些哭述着心灵的痛苦。听着，听着，一滴眼泪不禁流了下来。
自己的痛楚不算什么。
口中念着佛号，希望大家能够远离痛苦，得欢喜快乐。
一片宁静充满了心，感觉痛苦渐渐的远离心了。
这时，一位阿姨用着很慈祥的双眼看着我，对我说，"今天的午餐是鱼圓片粥，你想吃吗?"
我微笑的点点头。
看着这一碗粥，心里想着原来痛苦中，生起同理心，感恩心，痛苦就会少点。
心中痛苦少了，幸福就有空间住进心里了。
P.S.感谢各位的关爱。我已经出院了，现在在家里休息了。感恩。
口中念着佛号，希望大家能够远离痛苦，得欢喜快乐。
一片宁静充满了心，感觉痛苦渐渐的远离心了。
这时，一位阿姨用着很慈祥的双眼看着我，对我说，"今天的午餐是鱼圓片粥，你想吃吗?"
我微笑的点点头。
看着这一碗粥，心里想着原来痛苦中，生起同理心，感恩心，痛苦就会少点。
心中痛苦少了，幸福就有空间住进心里了。
P.S.感谢各位的关爱。我已经出院了，现在在家里休息了。感恩。
Wednesday, March 16, 2016
Tuesday, March 15, 2016
The World
The World
Friend: "Sometimes I think you are too idealistic for the world."
Bear: *laughs* "Yes. Perhaps. That is why I live in my world."
Friend: o_O ?
Simple Bear 15.03.2016.
Friend: "Sometimes I think you are too idealistic for the world."
Bear: *laughs* "Yes. Perhaps. That is why I live in my world."
Friend: o_O ?
Simple Bear 15.03.2016.
Monday, March 14, 2016
Impact of Stressful Event on a Bear (Case Study)
Impact of Stressful Event on a Bear (Case Study)
Disclaimer: the following post is a narration of an experiential experiment by an eccentric bear, and does not apply to humans; please do see a mental health professional if you are experiencing mental health issues.
The car accident offered me not only an opportunity to evaluate the priorities in my life but also an opportunity to study myself on the psychological aftereffect of a stressful event.
In case, you are wondering (especially for those of you who studied Psychology), I did monitor myself for symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) for the past few weeks.
The first few days were emotionally tiring, I experienced the arising of anxiety and fear whenever I am on public transportation e.g. buses or taxis. I clutched tightly to the handles on the buses, especially when the ride was bumpy. I asked taxi uncles to start driving only when I put on my seat belts and drive slow on public roads even if the roads are empty. I was hypervigilant when I am on the road. I experienced anxiety arising when I read news of accidents.
I avoided the site of the accident as much as I can. In the event, I have to go past the road, anxiety
arises accompanied by similar emotional memory.
I managed by meditating, I focus my attention on the physiological signs of the anxiety e.g. increasing heart beats as it arises and falls, slowly spreading tension throughout the body and then slowly ebbed away.
It was overwhelming at first but slowly, I began to get the hang of it. Watching the physiological signs every time it arises and falls, and over time, watching also the accompanying thoughts e.g. fear of the repeat of the accident as it arises and falls with the rhythm of the heart.
I monitored my motivation in my favorite activities, my productivity and concentration at work, my social interactions for signs of declining interest, dysfunctionality. There wasn't any salient changes.
I monitored my dreams for flashbacks. There wasn't any.
The hypervigilance and avoidance continued for the next few weeks but it slowly gotten lesser and lesser in frequency and intensity.
After the first few days, when I slowly got myself being increasingly aware of the arising of anxiety and fear, I began to systematically gain control of my body by putting it in a more relaxed state and also reinterpreting the event memory by imbuing the memory with feelings of gratitude for everyone being fine, for having a second chance to practice being a human.
Slowly after, the anxiety and fear decreases in their frequency and intensity and every time, after filling my thoughts associated with the event memory with gratitude, I started filling the following thoughts with loving-kindness, wishing for all to be well and happy.
This is the fourth week. I am feeling much better now, having been able to reach a state in which I can write about the experience. My body doesn't react as intensely as it did during the initial period after the accident.
This too shall pass.
May all be well and happy.
With Loving-Kindness
Simple Bear 14.03.2016.
Disclaimer: the following post is a narration of an experiential experiment by an eccentric bear, and does not apply to humans; please do see a mental health professional if you are experiencing mental health issues.
The car accident offered me not only an opportunity to evaluate the priorities in my life but also an opportunity to study myself on the psychological aftereffect of a stressful event.
In case, you are wondering (especially for those of you who studied Psychology), I did monitor myself for symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) for the past few weeks.
The first few days were emotionally tiring, I experienced the arising of anxiety and fear whenever I am on public transportation e.g. buses or taxis. I clutched tightly to the handles on the buses, especially when the ride was bumpy. I asked taxi uncles to start driving only when I put on my seat belts and drive slow on public roads even if the roads are empty. I was hypervigilant when I am on the road. I experienced anxiety arising when I read news of accidents.
I avoided the site of the accident as much as I can. In the event, I have to go past the road, anxiety
arises accompanied by similar emotional memory.
I managed by meditating, I focus my attention on the physiological signs of the anxiety e.g. increasing heart beats as it arises and falls, slowly spreading tension throughout the body and then slowly ebbed away.
It was overwhelming at first but slowly, I began to get the hang of it. Watching the physiological signs every time it arises and falls, and over time, watching also the accompanying thoughts e.g. fear of the repeat of the accident as it arises and falls with the rhythm of the heart.
I monitored my motivation in my favorite activities, my productivity and concentration at work, my social interactions for signs of declining interest, dysfunctionality. There wasn't any salient changes.
I monitored my dreams for flashbacks. There wasn't any.
The hypervigilance and avoidance continued for the next few weeks but it slowly gotten lesser and lesser in frequency and intensity.
After the first few days, when I slowly got myself being increasingly aware of the arising of anxiety and fear, I began to systematically gain control of my body by putting it in a more relaxed state and also reinterpreting the event memory by imbuing the memory with feelings of gratitude for everyone being fine, for having a second chance to practice being a human.
Slowly after, the anxiety and fear decreases in their frequency and intensity and every time, after filling my thoughts associated with the event memory with gratitude, I started filling the following thoughts with loving-kindness, wishing for all to be well and happy.
This is the fourth week. I am feeling much better now, having been able to reach a state in which I can write about the experience. My body doesn't react as intensely as it did during the initial period after the accident.
This too shall pass.
May all be well and happy.
With Loving-Kindness
Simple Bear 14.03.2016.
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